Michele Quiles, MHC-LP | Relational and Psychoanalytic Therapy NYC
I’m Michele, I’ve arrived at the conclusion that no one struggles with anything in singularity.
You are tired of venting to those who minimize your complaints about the unfair ways society functions. You are looking for someone to see your many layers, and don’t want to waste time explaining your politics. You want to be understood.
I’m a New York City psychotherapist and 4th gen New Yorker from Queens, offering relational and psychoanalytic therapy to adults, with a particular focus on LGBTQ+ clients, leftists, BPD, relationships, identity, and the ways capitalism and other social forces affect our mental health.
Relational & Psychoanalytic Therapy in New York City
I provide in-depth talk psychotherapy. I believe change comes from perspective change. Genuine perspective change.
If you could “amazon prime” your trauma away, you would not have sought out therapy. I don’t believe in “quick fixes” for complex mental health problems.
Below you will learn about how I frame some of the issues as a relational and analytic therapist and a little about how I “Think”.
I have a specialties page that examines my areas of focus in much greater detail.
Therapy for Leftists and Activists in NYC
I provide therapy for leftists and activists, and those that are being crushed under the weight of jobs they don’t care about. I provide therapy to those who are tired of pretending that all of this is normal. Isolating and exhausting, isn’t it? Therapy for internalized capitalism.
I support clients who are tired of venting to therapists that don’t get why the bankruptcy your family filed for has torn your family apart—or why the first of the month is an existential threat.
LGBTQ+ & Gender-Affirming Therapy in NYC
I work with queer clients and those expanding their understanding of their sexuality. I work with those in transition, those who are narrowing and expanding their gender- those who are celebrating their gender- and those who are suffering under “Gender”
Sexuality
Sex is often a neglected topic in therapy and yet it can be critical to understanding you. You deserve a space to discuss trauma, masturbation, kink, pleasure, poly, or whatever else.
Trauma Therapy & Therapy for “Defensive Organizations” that are over-staying their welcome
Trauma Therapy in NYC but more importantly therapy that wants to understand “you”
Trauma, even if it occurred long ago or in your present, has cascading effects on your ability to show up in the world, make changes, or break out of problematic patterns. Many defensive mechanisms are born due to traumatic events. Sometimes people pleasing is one of them. Sometimes personality disorders are another. You may have had hurtful traumatic incidents in early childhood which led to the defense mechanism known as “splitting”. If you live with a diagnosis of BPD aka borderline personality disorder you might experience sudden, exhausting shifts between idealizing someone and feeling completely devalued by them this is known as “splitting”. Splitting does not only occur with BPD.
Defensive organizations include a huge umbrella of issues. Diagnosis is limited, and can’t capture all of this. Difficult issues don’t only bring personal disorder mechanisms, they might bring up avoidance. Perhaps you start excessively gaming as a form of avoidance, people respond differently to hard things in their life.
inclusive therapy in NYC
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