Michele Quiles, MHC-LP | Relational and Psychoanalytic Therapy NYC
Therapy for individuals in the NY and NYC area.
I’m Michele, I’ve arrived at the conclusion that no one struggles with anything in singularity.
I’m a New York City psychotherapist offering relational and psychoanalytic therapy to adults, with a particular focus on LGBTQ+ clients, leftists, BPD, relationships, identity, and the ways capitalism and other social forces affect our mental health.
Relational & Psychoanalytic Therapy in New York City
I provide in-depth talk psychotherapy. I believe change comes from perspective change. Genuine perspective change.
If you could “amazon prime” your trauma away, you would not have sought out therapy. I don’t believe in “quick fixes” for complex mental health problems.
Therapy for Internalized Capitalism NYC
I provide therapy for activists, and those that are being crushed under the weight of jobs they don’t care about. I provide therapy to those who are tired of pretending that all of this is normal. Isolating and exhausting, isn’t it? I offer dedicated therapy for leftists, activists, and organizers in New York City.
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Therapy for Leftists and Activists in New York City
If you are a leftist in NYC looking for therapy, you might feel completely overwhelmed by the state of the world. Finding politically affirming care is deeply important to your healing. I provide a dedicated, radical space in New York City where your political anxiety is validated, helping you navigate activist burnout without pathologizing your response to systemic oppression.
Socioeconomic Trauma & Trauma Therapy in NYC
Trauma, even if it occurred long ago or in your present, has cascading effects on your ability to show up in the world, make changes, or break out of problematic patterns.
I offer therapy for those who have endured great socioeconomic trauma and have political anxiety. I support clients who are tired of venting to therapists that don’t get why the bankruptcy your family filed for has torn your family apart—or why the first of the month is an existential threat.
BPD Therapy & Personality Disorder Support in NYC
Splitting is a common defense mechanism where your mind thinks in black-and-white ways about people, relationships, and the world. If you live with BPD, you might experience sudden, exhausting shifts between idealizing someone and feeling completely devalued by them.
These cycles can make it incredibly hard to maintain stable relationships or hold down employment—which is usually what motivates people to seek treatment. I offer a supportive, non-judgmental space in New York City to help you navigate these patterns and find stability.
Boundary Setting and People Pleasing Therapy in NYC
Dependence is good. Too much is dysfunctional. I provide therapy for those that almost cannot function without their partner, twin, dog, whatever. If you feel you are excessively dependent , have people pleasing tendencies and want to become more confident, I offer a supportive space in New York City to help you navigate this.
LGBTQ+ & Gender-Affirming Therapy in NYC
I enjoy working with individuals in transition, those who are gender nonconforming, those who are narrowing and expanding their gender- those who are celebrating their gender- and those who are suffering under “Gender”
I love working with queer clients, LGBTQ+ clients, and those coming to terms with their sexuality, or other struggles.
Frameworks and Modalities
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Psychoanalysis is a means of looking at the unconscious, attachment patterns, major development, and family patterns. It’s the bedrock of most therapy.
Psychodynamic is more accessible psychoanalytic therapy as psychoanalysis is usually 3-5x a week and can last years. Psychodynamic therapy can be once a week and is generally more accessible.
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Therapy is a container where your relational patterns out in the real world come to life in the therapeutic sense.
I also think the relationship between the therapist and client is critical. It’s a window into the problems and even strengths you have outside of the therapy room. -
Dialectical behavior therapy is a means of holding the dialectic, or two truths, or two conflicting beliefs. It’s often used to treat borderline personality or other behaviors.
DBT doesn’t need to be exclusive to treating borderline personality and is great for distress tolerance and mindfulness, and cognitive dissonance in general. -
Everyone has different layers of identity.
Basically, you have many different layers: your race, your gender, mental health, class, sexuality, where you’re from, etc. These create different layers of privilege and oppression that interact.
The interaction is important to consider, and no one is simply “oppressed,” “privileged,” or “marginalized.”
I run a multicultural therapy group for mixed people, learn more here.
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I do not believe most people fit cleanly within most diagnoses. I also do not work from an over-pathologizing or diagnosis first approach. Labels are incredibly limiting. Yes, sometimes they are also life saving.
What’s more important:
You are living life better, you are improving socially, relationally, existentially.
Relational therapy might work for someone with “people pleasing tendencies” but someone might be neurodivergent and need a more structured approach.
I am flexible in my treatment style when it is called for, and flexibility is often called for. Two people can be struggling with something similar and yet need two entirely different approaches. You also could have major success working with a “diagnosis” in one person - and less with the other even with the same “approach” due to an individual’s motivation level to be in therapy.
Here’s the intention:
My intention is to be less “yeah, I have the solutions for everyone, and therapy goes exactly this way for these things” (Spoiler Alert: that would be ridiculous) and more- “how can I give someone an idea of my strengths and how I think so they can best determine if they’d like to work with me?”
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Read more about my other focuses here:
Sexuality, Anxiety, and Gaming
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Anxiety has a lot to do with avoidance, keeping yourself safe, and avoiding challenges.
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Sex is often a neglected topic by many therapists- and yet it is so important. I would hope that you become comfortable enough and I earn your trust so that you can discuss stigmatized subjects comfortably in therapy, like: sex, trauma, masturbation, kink, poly, or whatever else in your therapy sessions.
I provide therapy to those struggling with romantic relationships, or even with the relationship they have with themselves.
“It is a joy to be hidden and a disaster not to be found”
— D. W. Winnicott
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